Peace Starts at the Table
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We talked to the owner, originally from Turkey, about traveling there one day.
“Not now,” he said. “Too dangerous.”
He spoke of unrest, of immigrants fleeing, of violence and fear blanketing the land.
He said something that stayed with me:
“That region has never known peace. Israel, Iran, the whole area... it’s been generations of hate.”
It’s true.
Generational wounds. Passed down like heirlooms.
It’s not just in the Middle East, it’s in homes all around the world.
And while the world distracts itself with houses, careers, and cars, we’ve forgotten the only thing that truly builds peace: healing.
We stay busy—not because we’re thriving, but because we’re hurting.
And staying busy keeps us from facing the ache we carry.
We don’t heal.
We hand it to our kids.
We build routines around pain instead of restoration.
But we don’t need more stuff.
We need healed families.
And that starts with healed men.
When a man—leader of his home—decides to do the real work…
When he lays down pride and chooses healing,
The entire atmosphere of his home changes.
But when he avoids it, escapes into work, or blames others—especially his wife—
His wounds spill onto everyone.
His silence becomes emotional distance.
His pressure becomes anxiety.
His pain becomes their pattern.
A woman needs to feel safe—physically, emotionally, spiritually.
She needs strength that doesn’t intimidate but covers.
But if her husband hasn’t healed, she can’t fully rest in her design.
She becomes hyper-vigilant. Guarded. Tense. Worn out.
And he often doesn’t even realize the damage.
He’s too distracted, too praised for being the provider,
Too immersed in performance to recognize the spiritual war waging in his home.
But YHWH is calling His sons to stop building kingdoms on broken bones.
This doesn’t mean wives are off the hook.
Healing is everyone’s responsibility.
But let’s be honest—women are often more willing to work on trauma.
They journal.
They go to therapy.
They pray, fast, read, weep, grow.
But wives, if your husband has not healed, you’ll only ever be able to heal partially.
There’s a covering YHWH designed that can’t be manufactured.
Your wholeness was designed to dwell in the safety of a healed husband.
We need each other—fully surrendered, fully healed, and fully honest.
That’s how peace begins.
Healing doesn’t start in governments.
It starts at the dinner table.
It starts with the father who humbles himself.
With the husband who repents.
With the man who turns his heart back to YHWH and his family.
From the heart → to the home → to the world.
This is how we reclaim peace.
Not temporary peace...
But generational, Spirit-filled, legacy-making peace.
Scriptures to Meditate On
Mal’aki (Malachi) 4:6 – “He shall turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with utter destruction.” (TS2009)
Yoḥanan (John) 14:27 – “Peace I leave with you – My peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” (TS2009)
Romiyim (Romans) 14:19 – “So, then, let us pursue the matters of peace and the matters for building up one another.” (TS2009)
Tehillim (Psalms) 34:14 – “Turn away from evil and do good; Seek peace, and pursue it.” (TS2009)
Research confirms what Scripture has always taught:
Unresolved trauma gets passed down.
A 2014 study published in Biological Psychiatry found that trauma changes genetic expression, making children more susceptible to stress and emotional dysregulation—even when they haven't experienced the trauma themselves (Yehuda et al., 2014).
Men’s emotional health shapes the home.
A study from the Journal of Family Psychology (2009) found that when fathers are emotionally unavailable or unresolved in their own trauma, their children are at a higher risk of anxiety, depression, and behavioral issues (Cummings, Goeke-Morey, & Raymond).
Healing requires intentional stillness.
Neuroscience shows that practices like silence, reflection, and emotional awareness activate the parasympathetic nervous system, reducing anxiety and allowing the brain to rewire old trauma responses (Siegel, 2010, The Mindful Brain).
Distraction is emotional avoidance.
A peer-reviewed study in Frontiers in Psychology (2016) showed that excessive focus on external success (money, performance, work) is often a psychological mechanism to avoid emotional discomfort and inner healing.
So, if you want peace?
It doesn’t start in politics.
It starts in your living room.
At your dinner table.
In your prayer closet.
On your knees.
Men, lead the charge.
Wives, prepare the ground.
Children, reap the fruit.
YHWH is still turning hearts home.